They say the first seven years of marriage are the hardest, so we now officially have 4 down. :) Our anniversary was June 12 and we did nothing. Ok, so Matt got me a card and 3 roses (he tried for four, but just didn't remember). But we had fajitas at home, played with the kids and were sleeping by 9. I guess that's how it's going to be for awhile. Every time we try to do something on our anniversary it ends up being a bust- this was the first year we gave up.
Our first year, I was about 6 months pregnant with Olivia and we tried to go out to eat. Well, by the time we got to the restaurant, we had 30 minutes to order, eat and pay because they were closing. AND, I got really sick off the food so that ended that. Our second year, Olivia was like 9 months old or so, and my parents came to babysit her so we could go out to dinner & a movie. Well, we got to the theatre parking lot and got into a HUGE fight over something so dumb I can't even remember. SO, that evening ended about 20 minutes after it began and we were home and didn't talk the rest of the night. Last year, we had all the intentions of doing something romantic and fun but were in the middle of a home addition. Not only did Matt not budget or plan like he should have- but we were BROKE and were trying to come up with extra money for things he didn't even think about. Not to mention it wasn't "on time", so I was stressed out about my family coming a few weeks later and not having anywhere for people to sleep or eat. I think all of last June was a never ending fight over his lack of organizational skills. :)
So much has happened in four years that it really does feel like a battle of wills some days, but then other days it's really great and fun. We work hard at our marriage, god knows we've had some serious struggles and things to work through, but we try and it's the best we can do. One day though, I'd REALLY like to go on a real date with my husband, preferrably before the kids move out. :)