So it's Father's Day and it dawned on me that maybe I should tell you about why my step dad and my husband are awesome. Because I don't talk about either of them much so it'll give you a chance to get to know them.
My real dad is a complete dead beat alcoholic that was never around when I grew up. Instead, my mom married my step dad and he took over the role as our dad in every way possible and did a fabulous job. He works as a over the road truck driver so that meant he was gone for long stretches of time (like months) just so that we could have the things we had when we were growing up. I know my mom had to work extra hard when he was gone but in the end, I think my brother and I were better for it.
And Matt. Damn. You know, I can say a lot of not great thing about my relationship with Matt and we may argue a lot. We might not be the ideal couple. And he might drive me just as nuts as I drive him. But one thing that can will always be said- Matt is a fabulous father. I know that if nothing else in my life, I made the right decision having children with Matt. There is not another guy on this planet that is as good of a dad as Matt is. And in all of the hard times we've had and all of the times I wanted to hate him, I just couldn't because he's just a good person at heart and nobody can say he isn't good to his kids and to me.
When I had Olivia I had really terrible post partum depression. I didn't know what was wrong with me for a year, Matt didn't know and looking back I see how helpless he must have felt, and he was nothing but supportive. After a few weeks he told me he'd be doing all of the feedings during the night because he thought maybe the lack of sleep was getting to me. He was dead tired every single morning, but he still got up and went to work for 9 hours a day.
He cleans up all of the disgusting messes. Whether it be kid or cat related, I know I can call Matt and he will always come home to do the job while I laugh, take pictures, and gag.
He's so selfless with the kids. When Olivia was 16 months old she was hospitalized with stomach flu and dehydration for three days. Meanwhile, Matt had the stomach flu and was throwing up all over the place but there he was, with Olivia and me.
And the best part? Matt still did all night feedings with Jackson even though I was perfectly OK to do them this time around.