I'm not talking about the fact that Mitt Romney is trying to be President, although that is certainly cause for concern and we should all pray to baby Jeebus that does not happen. We're all fucked if that happens, just so you know.
But I'm talking about a guy named Sean Harris. Some of you maybe have heard about his obviously anti-gay rant which I believe was this past Sunday. You can actually hear it HERE and it's appalling. But to give you people who are too lazy to sit through and listen to it a sample:
"So your little son starts to act a little girlish when he is four years old and instead of squashing that like a cockroach and saying, 'Man up, son, get that dress off you and get outside and dig a ditch, because that is what boys do,' you get out the camera and you start taking pictures of Johnny acting like a female and then you upload it to YouTube and everybody laughs about it and the next thing you know, this dude, this kid is acting out childhood fantasies that should have been squashed.
Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give him a good punch. Ok? You are not going to act like that. You were made by God to be a male and you are going to be a male. And when your daughter starts acting too butch, you reign her in. And you say, 'Oh, no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play them to the glory of God. But sometimes you are going to act like a girl and walk like a girl and talk like a girl and smell like a girl and that means you are going to be beautiful. You are going to be attractive. You are going to dress yourself up.'"
Now, as a parent of both a daughter and a son, this is horrifying. As a parent your job is to raise your child to be a law abiding, decent human being. At the end of the day we all hope our children grow up to be self sufficient, have love for themselves and others and end up happy. If being happy means that they fall in love with someone of the same sex as them... does it matter? It shouldn't. If you say it should and hide behind the Bible as your reasoning, I'm sorry you have such poor reading comprehension skills. You should maybe focus on making sure the school district you were educated in gets more funding since they are obviously lacking in quality teachers and programming.
What is disturbing is that he is absolutely clueless. My son, who is four, totes around a purse full of super heroes, Legos and cars. But he is ALL boy. He is boy to the tenth degree. Does this make him gay? No, it means he spends a lot of time with me and his sister and that's because his dad has to work a lot of hours so we can pay our bills due to a shit economy. Does this mean that every gay man has effeminate qualities? No. I know one guy who is as gay as they come but you would never know it. He's an athlete, a smart business man, and highly educated. Does this mean that every "butch" girl is a lesbian? Um, no. I have lots of friends who were "butch" and are happily married with kids. Some women have no desire to wear a dress and be arm candy for a man with such low self worth and self esteem. In fact, I see that as a sad reality to women everywhere who are doing that very thing.
I was watching an episode of Real Time with Bill Maher and one panelist said that for America to be the most diverse country in the world, in every sense of the word, we are one of the least accommodating. We are hateful, we are racist, we are sexist, we are unforgiving to anything different from us. And I have to agree to that. You can't go anywhere in this country without seeing real discrimination on lots of different races, religions, sex, whatever.
Right now in our country we have people who are preaching such things, igniting the fire of hate, when apparently God says he loves everybody. If God loves everybody, the next logical step is that we are supposed to love everybody. What difference to you is it if your neighbor has a partner of the same sex? Do you have to be involved? No. Do you have to partake in sexual activity with them? No. Do you have to watch them in intimate moments? No. Does it change anything in your life directly? No. It does not. I think if people were more focused on their own problems and bettering themselves instead of trying so hard to change other people from how they were BORN, we'd be in such a better place.
You know what else is horrifying? The physical violence of this. Generally speaking, the fact we have hundreds, if not thousands of young people killing themselves because of who they love, is nothing short of tragic. If you believe that it is better that a person kill themselves and cause loss and heartache to those that love them, I hope you have a reserved seat in hell because you are now no better than someone who intentionally guns a person down in the street for no reason.
Specifically speaking though, have you ever spanked a child? If you have not you have no idea what violence like this can do to a child. I will be up front and honest that I have spanked my children but I can count on one hand how many times that has every happened to them combined in their lives. I can specifically remember the looks on their faces before and after and as their mother I am ashamed to know that I've done that and horrified that I have those faces forever engraved in my head. But for a parent to be physically violent towards their child because of their personality? That is child abuse in every sense of the word and you absolutely have no right to call yourself a parent. To be a parent means you have a higher responsibility to raise them into productive members of society. If you are a racist, that's fine, but you have no right to form an opinion onto your child as such. If you are a hateful person, that's fine, but you need to refrain from showing your child those behaviors because they are impressionable.
And honestly- if you believe what you say or do is not wrong and should be common practice, where is the harm of letting them decide that on their own without your undue influence? It's kind of how I view religion- I may not be religious but I would never discourage my children from embracing it. If my kids came to me as adults to tell me they are going to be Jewish- fabulous. Let's have Hanukkah.
It's absolutely horrifying that you not only have this man preaching this things but more terrifying that he has an audience who eats it up. If you are one of them, let me be clear: there is something very wrong with you. I am sad that you are going to miss out on some really great people who could be the greatest friend and you will never know that because you are too narrow minded to look past who they love, what they look like, or whatever. It's really unfortunate that you are wasting your life filling yourself up with such hate towards fellow man. Life is hard enough to get through as it is, we don't need other people bringing others down. But more importantly- who are YOU to judge others? To dictate how they should live? How about we give everyone equal rights and leave it up to the higher power (if there is one) to decide who gets into Heaven or not and not worry about something we have no control over, hmm?