Is anybody else reading the series on MSN about the adoption "re-homing" epidemic? If not, you have to. It's horrifying and scary. As a parent, I don't understand the people who beat their kids and quite frankly, I don't know how anyone can use the excuse of "I got pregnant on accident" anymore when there are so many options at your disposal.
So the condensed version of this is that people who really want to be parents adopt kids. Sometimes these are American born kids but are more often internationally born kids. And anyone who knows anything knows that kids born internationally and are not adopted immediately at birth will be in orphanages which aren't known to be loving and give you the warm and fuzzies. Oftentimes these kids have mental, social, emotional, physical disabilities and can be hard to raise. There is no doubt that if you adopt a child with "issues" it is often a long and difficult road to travel. As a parent with "normal" children, I cannot begin to understand how hard it would be do this.
But at the end of the day- no matter how your child is if they are conceived and birthed by you, you love them. You parent them through it. You nurture them, you do your best. You never, ever give up. And that should be the same if you adopt a child. If you adopt a child who isn't what you hoped and dreamed- oh well. You made that choice. You don't just say you can't do it and then re-home them.
I'm reading this articles horrified because I can't even imagine a parent just dumping their child off to a complete stranger. A stranger who could very well sexually assault your child. A stranger who could sell them in child sex rings. There are people out there who do vile, horrible, scary things to children for fun and these parents think it's OK to take that chance? Because it got too hard?
Well guess what, assholes? Parenting IS hard. It isn't meant to be easy. If your kid isn't what you hoped they would be? Try harder. Giving up on them and dumping them with potential abusers isn't the answer. How do you think those kids feel knowing that their parents thought that dumping them in these places was a better option than trying harder?
Then I think- how can you re-home a child with no paperwork? Wouldn't you have to have something to bring them to the doctor? Enroll in school? No. Of course you wouldn't if you never brought them to the doctor and you home schooled. Nobody would ever have to know you were acquiring children and doing god knows what to them.
I don't think I really know what a child has to do in order for you to not care at all? I mean, instead of taking the child back to the adoption agency, or even the state welfare system as screwed up as it is, you choice to go and do something shady and hand the kid off to anyone? Absolutely anyone?
If that's the case- you should have all of your kids taken away. I really believe that. As a parent you can't just pick and choose which ones you'll love. You really can't. Every kid has their faults, some worse than others, but you are their parent. No matter how badly things go wrong, they need to know that no matter what- there you are. Even when they are bad. Even when they are good. Even when they don't understand why they are the way they are- they need to know that there is somebody out there that 100% no matter what, loves them, and provides a safe spot for them to be.
But no. You have parents out there who give up, and essentially toss the kids away. It makes me wish I could adopt them myself but I can't. The thought of children, who need real help and love, being tossed away because it's too hard breaks my heart. I can't even imagine. It's right up there with the parents who just care so little about their kids that they come to school functions drunk or can't wash their kids' clothing regularly and send them to school in the winter without the proper winter clothing.
So read the series. It's really an eye opener.