I have seen it pop up on my Facebook quite a bit in different forms over the last few months. I have gotten into some interesting conversations with people in regards to it on both sides of the fence. I think a few of my friends were kind of surprised where I stood on it considering I'm not the skinniest gal on the block.
Of course I'm talking about the weight debate. The "what's your excuse" campaign versus curvy girls being proud and loud, etc.
I will always be that person who thinks you should love yourself how you are. We are all different, we all have different chemistry that makes us all really unique and great. Nobody should make you feel inferior because you possess a different something about you than them, whether it be internal or external. At the same time, you should never let a person dictate how you feel about yourself.
I also think that if you're really obese? Well, you've got to work on that. I'm not saying it because being overweight makes you less pretty or less great as a person, but because it isn't healthy for you. Your organs and internal system were never meant to accommodate large amounts of weight. You might be big and beautiful, but you're unhealthy. You could be the most physically fit person, but if you are technically overweight? You aren't healthy. You are still a candidate for all of the things they tell you about when you go to the doctor.
I am admittedly not the skinniest person. I'm not. I'm overweight. I am currently 5'3 and I am 172 pounds. Certainly not the heaviest I've been but it's also not the smallest I have been either. Do I look fat? No. Do I find myself physically unappealing? No. Does my husband make me feel bad about any of this? God, no. He has always embraced me at whatever I am because he loves me. So then the question is, why am I even working out? If I don't feel fat, look fat, and my husband doesn't care- why bother?
Because I want to be healthy. I don't want to develop diabetes, I don't want to have a heart attack, I want my organs to be happy and function for as long as they can without any kind of medical intervention. Because I'm not at a healthy weight despite how I look or feel. I'm perfectly happy with how I look. I don't like climbing a few flights of stairs and feel winded. I want to be able to run and play tag with my kids in a park and not have to take a rest. I want to run and enjoy it. I want to hike and not feel like my lungs are going to explode.
And what was my excuse?
My excuse has always been that I work a lot, I'm busy with kids, I'm tired, I have to clean the house, I have things to do for everyone, etc.
And it is really all just a bunch of crap. What it comes down to is that essentially, I'm a lazy person at heart.
You could argue that I wasn't when you see all that I do in a week, or even in a day. But I'm lazy in terms of physical activity. I will wimp out on everything. I avoid things that require me to do physical activity. Every time a friend would ask if I want to work out with them, I've always used the, "I'm fine with how I look. I'm chunky and proud.", because I am. I don't feel badly about how I look. Genetically, I have a large ass, large breasts, and thunder thighs. I can't fight genetics and I'm alright with that. Terrible realization to have at age 19 but at least I'm not 45 and in gross denial about it. But that doesn't mean I can't tone things up and be less flappy. That's my current goal: get less flappy.
But when I see these "thinspiration" things on Pinterest right next to the "be big and proud" things, it makes my eye twitch. Because neither are really getting it. It's not about being thin, it's about being healthy. I think society goes from one extreme to the other. They either want you stick skinny where you can count bones, or they say being overweight should be accepted.
Neither should be accepted, because neither are healthy.
This country is incredibly lazy. People are rude, they feel entitled, and they want to be right. There really is an obesity epidemic in this country and instead of finding ways to combat that through healthy diet and exercise, we have an entire movement of people saying, "You can't tell I'm not a healthy person by how I look". Um, yes. Yes I can because a human body is not made to sustain 200+ pounds of weight. It's just not. Just like if I saw a person who was jaundice, but felt fine otherwise, I could tell you something isn't right and you might have great blood pressure but hey, your liver appears to not work.
Admittedly, there are people out there who are overweight and have legitimate health reasons for this despite all of their best efforts. But at least they still make the effort any ways because they know to remain healthy and not get worse, that's what they need to do. Lord knows I will never be a size 2. I may realistically never see single digits again. I'm totally fine with that. But what I do need to improve is my heart health. I have to work out so my body is healthy and fit. I know I will likely face cancer in my lifetime at least once and when that happens I want to be ready. I want to have every advantage that I can so I can live a long life and see my children grow. I'm not working out so I can wear a bikini, I'm working out so I can increase my life expectancy.
I don't think things like the "what's your excuse" campaign is a put down at all. It's meant to be a question that gets you to look at the things you list as excuses, and what can you do about them so you CAN work out and get healthy. Not that they aren't valid obstacles, because they are. I have a list, you have a list. My list isn't more important than yours and vice versa. I think of instead of rolling your eyes at the women who are trying to improve their fitness, maybe ask them to show you the ropes. And instead of fat bashing someone, ask them if they want to go for a walk. It's OK to be not stick thin, you are still worthwhile, valued, and beautiful. But take care of your vessel. You only get one and if you can make any kind of difference in your life by going for a walk every night, why would you not do that? If you knew that 30 minutes of exercise could change your entire outlook on life, wouldn't you do it? My mental health is directly tied to how active I am and I never realized it until I became active. You might think you are happy, but just wait until how you feel when you are doing even simple things every day for 30 minutes. It's a huge difference.