Earlier today I came across this article in regards to women being breadwinners of a family and could that, in turn, play a negative role in a marriage and to a greater extent, society as a whole. It's not that this is a new conversation so I'm just not slighted by it, but the fact is- this has been a conversation since women became prominent in the work force. I see how people are trying to tie in the equal pay argument into this because it all kind of balls together, doesn't it?
I think the thing that galls me the most is that in that article, it referenced an episode of Fox & Friends and it wasn't just men on the panel. If it were just a panel of men, I could shake my head and say they were just angry because they have some bizarre inferiority complex. No, there were two women on that panel. Those two women essentially sat and said nothing. They just took it from those men like it was just another day at the office. They let colleagues of theirs talk down to them and to do it so publicly, and they couldn't even stand up for themselves. Granted, this is the Fox News Channel we're talking about so these are the most intelligent people we're working with. They legitimately maybe didn't understand what was being discussed or are slow in general.
I don't know them personally, I can't say any of that for sure.
I'll be the first to say I am not what I would consider a strong feminist. I am not going to be that woman out there at rallies and burning my bra. I'm at least woman enough to understand that I need that bra and I don't like inclement weather and you don't see that those rallies happening on sunny, gorgeous days.
I do believe women should get equal pay if they earn it. You don't just get a great paycheck because you showed up. Simultaneously, I think men should have to earn their paycheck as well, and quite frankly- I'd like to say most don't. I really don't believe most people in this country are doing enough work to quantify the wage they think they should get paid. You know what, just because gas is almost $4 a gallon and the price of milk is obscene does not mean you need to be making $10 an hour or more. How about you go to college and earn your way.
Another discussion for another day.
Do I think women need to ban together and take back our ovaries? Kind of. But the problem is that for every woman we have campaigning towards making the work place equal, we have a handful of passive women who are too dependent on their jobs who don't want to rock the boat and be a trouble maker. Top that with thousands of men out there that have their self worth tied to what they bring home. Because at the end of the day, I think what makes men so insecure is that we are able to do it all. For every woman that touts that it's career or family? I'd like to knock off a bridge. The people who say that are the people who can't do it, so they turn to knocking down those of us who do.
You know what? I work almost full time, I volunteer at least 15 hours a week with various programs, I'm a mom, I'm a wife, and my house? Spotless. I'm not Super Woman, I'm organized and driven. I want my kids to grow up knowing a clean house is an expectation, not a fun surprise occasionally. I want my kids to grow up seeing me as a bright, intelligent, independent person who can love, work, and give back without sacrificing anywhere.
My husband doesn't resent me because I bring home a paycheck. We've always been partners, we're equal. For years I was the breadwinner. I wanted to do other things and our home life necessitated that, so we reversed roles. We're fine. I get angry when people try to rationalize the high divorce rate with women being successful. You know why the divorce rate is so high? Because people are lazy and selfish. Sure, some situations warrant a divorce- I'm not anti-divorce. But divorce is an absolute, dead last option. Marriage is hard and it can fall apart so easily if you don't put forth a real effort every day.
But back to vaginas versus penises.
I think the fact that women versus men in the workplace is even a thing is because people are a little outraged, but honestly- it takes a lot of effort to get things done. Nobody has the time. The people who are the most upset about it are those of us who are working our asses off and maintaining a family and homestead and we really just get excited about being able to pee alone. In silence, if we're really lucky.The women who are just kind of meh about the whole thing are the ones who don't understand what this means for their daughters later on, or the women who don't give a damn because they are just happy to take whatever success they can get, even if it means sitting on a degrading cable network show and smiling blindly at the camera because by god- they made it! But does that really make them any better than say... a stripper moving up to the title of exotic dancer?